FAQ’s 💘 & etiquette
[in chronological order ❣️]
1. Planning the date 💌
How to plan an amazing time together <3
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romantics ❣️ deep + thoughtful thinkers, those who crave a life of sensuality and presence, those who love to savor everything and take things slow, who understand the art of flirtation means that building heat & tension starts through conversation, that intimacy is built in the quiet and small moments, that a moment of eye contact or inside joke shared in public can melt you (complimentary), that the journey is in fact the destination (that foreplay is everything). Those who want to feel more, connect more deeply, get lost in the moment, come alive 💘
I’m particularly invested in long-term connections, where we can really let the story unfold and build intimacy over time. If you view intimacy thru the lens of timestamps or a rushed mechanical checklist, I can guarantee we won’t be a good fit.
But if you crave presence, delight, tenderness, and adventure, believe that laughing and spending time together in beautiful spaces is an essential form of flirtation, love swapping playlists and being a positive influence on each other…we will be cute together :)
Even if our connection is relatively brief (and trust me, that can be fun!!), I find that the most memorable and cathartic connections start with a mindset of presence, savoring the moment, & slowing down.
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Absolutely! :) I am always honored to see you for your first experience with a companion, first time exploring queerness or in general. The space we create together is is a space for connection + exploration + fun. Truly a no-pressure, judgment-free zone <3
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My email inbox/booking form is open 24/7, and I typically reply to legitimate inquiries within 24 hours (unless I’ve advertised that I’m away.)
You should reach out when you:
*Have fully familiarized yourself with my booking process
*Have your available dates ready as well as back-up dates
*Have your deposit ready to send
I recommend at least 1 week out, and 2-3 weeks out is the best!
I’m occasionally available for day-of inquiries (more likely for outcall than incall), typically accompanied by a day-of fee.
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Unless I’ve advertised that I’m away, I am typically really prompt with my replies (>24-48 hours) to inquiries that include full screening/booking requirements.
The booking process should take no more than 3 emails total to complete.
To honor both of our busy schedules, please be ready to confirm details & send deposit within 1-12 hours after you’ve received deposit instructions.
I unfortunately can’t hold an appointment time without a deposit, and the appointment may no longer be available/hotel prices change etc., so always best to move with intention <3
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Outcalls to 4+ star hotels are always preferred by me (over incalls) 💘
Incall = You visit me
Outcall = I visit you
If you’d prefer for me to make the arrangements, please be ready to add a space fee (typically 300-500) to your deposit (I’ll send you instructions during the booking process).
I completely understand privacy concerns leading you to select incall. If you do have the ability to arrange the space yourself, this is always appreciated & strongly preferred!
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I’m happy to receive thoughtful TMTY and FMTY requests. Let’s make your city feel new again :)
My Northeast TMTY minimum is 6 hours. To keep things simple, I charge a 1,000 flat travel fee to cover train, hotel, and lyft transportation during my travel. I’ll handle the logistics
TMTY + FMTY bookings require a $50 good faith deposit to begin logistical planning, and a 50% deposit (covering the total booking cost) as well as travel rate to confirm booking
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I see clients ages 21+
I have no upper age limit, and love connecting with older clients! :) People only become more fascinating and hot with time ☺️
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If you have loose requests (like wear blue + orange because we’re going to the Mets/Knicks game), that is welcome!
If you see something on my wishlist that has your attention, or have a specific request (“please wear a little black dress to the symphony”, for ex) you’re welcome to send a wishlist gift a few weeks before we meet and then experience it together irl :)
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When we’re in person together, I’d love to hear about your dreams & fantasies and see where we resonate for the future.
Our first time meeting will be a space to get to know each others’ energy and start building a foundation for a shared language around consent, boundaries and all the communication and respect that makes exploration fun and exciting.
My approach to companionship is about connecting deeply, building intimacy, playfulness, and sensuality. If you are looking for a more menu-style approach or have a checklist, we won’t be a good fit. If you’re looking to connect deeply, be affectionate and laugh a lot, we'll get along great :)
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We can! After screening is complete, I’m happy to schedule a 20 minute phone call (~100) to hear each others’ voices and break the ice. Please note, this is a PG-rated phone call
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As adorable & precious as I look on camera… I don’t Facetime or video call with clients for reasons related to digital privacy & security as a face-in provider. Thank you for your respect & understanding!
If you’d like to schedule an (audio) phone call to break the ice, I’m happy to arrange that! See the dropdown pertaining to phone calls
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Ah you noticed! 😉
My email communication style leans towards formal, and this is intentional.
I have a very multifaceted life juggling school, work, and beyond, and this has taught me to be super organized, clear and concise with my email communication so I can keep track of important logistics (aka our time together!)
This does not mean I don’t like you! I just reserve my natural warmth and playfulness for when we get together in person.
As the courtesan saying goes ~
My vibe over email: 👩⚖️📅
My vibe irl: 🥰💘
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Happily! I’ll ask you both to fill out the booking form and screen separately.
2 hour minimum
Add 500/hour
[ For ex, 2 hours (1600) is 2600, 3 hours (2200) is 3700, etc ]
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On a case-by-case basis, yes! I am bisexual and love spending time with couples and friends.
With that said, in the realm of companionship, I find that my favorite connections are 1on1 or being invited into an established relationship💘
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For bookings up to/including 2 hours, yes! I’m happy to meet you first for a drink or spend the whole time creating a quiet escape from the city
For bookings 3 hours and longer, part of that time should either start or finish outside of the room (meeting at a bar/restaurant for a snack/drink, walking thru a museum for an hour, or flipping that order :)) Dates 4 hours and longer should include an activity (museum, show, finding a spot to flirt with good food + views :))
If discretion is important to you and you prefer not to be seen in public, I completely understand! Please let me know in your booking form, and we can discuss something that works.
I have a stay-in fee for bookings 3 hours and longer.
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If it’s our first time meeting, I’m happy to meet you at an upscale hotel of your choosing. I don’t visit private residences on our first meeting as a personal safety precaution, but if you’d prefer not to make hotel arrangements I’m happy to handle the logistics on our first meeting
Once we’ve met once and you’ve shown me how wonderful you are, I am happy to meet you at your place at my discretion
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I mostly eat a pescatarian diet and occasionally eat chicken. I don’t eat beef, pork, duck, or lamb.
I am tragically allergic to dairy - butter is usually okay but heavy cream, milk, and cheese are sadly out. But yes you can take me out for vegan soft serve!!
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For overnights I require 7-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep, and we should expect to plan dinner and breakfast within our time. I’m very cuddly and affectionate, but am a delicate sleeper and require my own separate bedroom in order to be my bright + attentive self. The next morning, I’ll return to you for breakfast in bed to start the day correctly :)
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Good question!
My tips for how to not fumble your booking form intro ~
*First make sure you’ve properly submitted your screening. Nothing hotter than a respectful inquiry with all the screening shared right away
*For your booking form intro message, I recommend erring on the side of a little formal - Imagine you’re reaching out your barber or denist’s office (truly!) We’ll have plenty of time to make it personal + informal irl :)
*You can tell me a bit about your job, some hobbies you’re passionate about. You’re welcome to mention a book or artist you love right now - Basically brief, normal “getting to know you” type stuff to give me a sense of your personality and some of the 1st topics we might chat about in person
*Let me know a bit about what drew you to me & what resonated for you
*If it’s your first time seeing a companion, you’re welcome to mention that!
*If you’re visiting the city, you can share where you’re staying or anything else you want to share about what brings you to NYC
*Please avoid chatgpt, copy/paste messages, overly casual or explicit language
*The whole message can be around 5-10 sentences - You’re giving me a small taste of your vibe, and I’ll look forward to getting to know more in person! :)
*Aim for this tone: Warm, respectful, enthusiastic but not presumtuous.
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You can ask! I rarely have day-of availability (especially for incalls) but it does occasionally happen.
Please note that an additional day-of fee will likely be added.
Given my intense school/class schedule, I recommend reaching out to schedule 2 weeks in advance for a higher scheduling success rate.
Plus, scheduling in advance is a surefire way to make a great first impression with me 😘
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Fortunately for us both, yes I very much am :)
If you’d like more proof of my existence, you can read my TY notes page, my ongoing Ask Me Anything, or my 3,000+ posts on Bluesky (where you can also see me interact with colleagues.)
(click on any of those options to be linked to the pages mentioned)
As a client once told me (after viewing my Bluesky and determining that I am real), “an AI could never be this esoteric” 😂💌
date ideas
[ For a detailed list of recommendations, click pink dropdown below ]
I really love a rare blend of what some would call “high-brow” and “low-brow” or “fancy vs casual” experiences. To me, it’s all about the attitude you bring to it. When we’re really tuned into each other & the moment, everything can feel romantic and decadent and a pleasure. A business trip can often feel a little too serious - we can change that 👼🏼 And even the most casual spaces can feel royal in the right company.
Time with me has included going to punk shows and the symphony, learning Hilary Duff choreography together or getting dressed up to attend the ballet, diner breakfast and omakase 60 floors up, painting your nails on a park bench over bubble tea and going to a full day at the spa. Deep discussions over soft serve about which Pokemon/cartoon you most strongly resonate with and sitting side-by-side in a secret cocktail bar, opening up about your biggest anxieties & passions & dreams.
Enthusiasm & intention are genuinely the most important things. consider me eager to learn about what lights you up :) <3
(Click below to dropdown)
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MUSEUM DATES
I love museum dates!
There’s something uniquely flirtatious about walking around experiencing art together, and I love the way connecting over art can invite so many unique conversations. Deeply fascinated by the spaces where history + art collide, my two favorite NYC museums are the Met and the Cloisters, but I’d love to join you for any exhibit that excites you :)
BOTANICAL GARDENS
Similarly I love visits to any botanical garden, or for a more low-key date, wandering around the flower district smelling the flowers and picking out a bouquet together.
SPORTS
I love sports games - am a huge soccer fan, love watching basketball. But being with a passionate fan is the hottest part to me. I love being introduced to fandoms and learning the lore from you. Being in a sports arena of any kind with hot company excites me :)
MUSIC
I love experiencing live music especially in unique formats - Handel’s Messiah at Trinity Church. Linkin Park in Madrid June 2026. Joe Hisaishi performing Studio Ghibli’s orchestral scores at Radio City. Hilary Duff’s comeback at Madison Square Garden :)
TEAHOUSES / DRINKS
High tea at the Plaza or Russian Tea Room. Or get cocktails/mocktails somewhere moody with an insane NYC view (I have some excellent recommendations, but I love to be introduced to new spots as well 👼🏼)
FILM
I will attend every Ghibli Fest as long as it exists, and love to be introduced to your favorites - Movies are meant to be experienced on the big screen!! Love to subtly hold hands in a big theater :)
OPERA / SYMPHONY / BALLET
I love any and every excuse to get all fancy at Carnegie Hall and I have an obsession with the Nutcracker
My favorite way to experience and learn about art/sports/(and anything!) is to learn about it from the mouth of a superfan.
I LOVE when people share with me about their favorite artists, films, sports teams, hobbies etc. I find this to be such a special way to get to know more sides of someone- To learn about the things that are special to you. I really am always honored to be included in this type of enthusiasm and I don’t believe in yucking someone’s yum or the idea of “guilty pleasures”. I love when people unapologetically embrace their taste, even if it doesn’t “make sense” to the outside world. So hot to me!!
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Of course! I totallyyyyy understand nerves. In fact, it’s totally normal and even expected to feel a little (or really) nervous when meeting a new person for the first time (or even someone you have seen many times but have a crush on)
Your body is not a machine/robot <3 When you feel nervous, you might sweat a little more, trip over your words/feel more shy, or feel like you can’t show up to the way you hope to - all of that is completely normal and not a turn-off to me. I’m never expecting a performance from you or grading you against some mythic/impossible performance-based criteria. This is a space to relieve that pressure, laugh together and create an environment where we can take things slow and really connect.
I always appreciate it when someone shares with me that they are feeling nervous - I take it as an honor when someone opens up to me <3
I am super warm, empathetic, nonjudgmental, and very used to putting us both at ease. I absolutely love learning about people and will undoubtedly think you’re deeply cool and interesting. Show up respectfully and with an open heart, and we will have an amazing time :)
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If you are running early - You’re always welcome to take a walk around the block, pick up a bottled seltzer, bubble tea, tea or coffee for me (my favorites are listed a little later on this page!)
Discretion is important ~ If we are meeting in private and I am hosting, it is important that you do not arrive to my space early, as I tragically won’t have a waiting room for you and will still be preparing the room for your arrival.
If you are running late - Just let me know! I am typically (but not always) able to accommodate 5-10 minutes. After that point, it will cut into our time. But I know we will make the most of it!
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If we are meeting in private, please present the patronage in an unsealed envelope or book within our first 5 minutes together. You can simply say “this is for you!” and leave it on a table as we’re greeting each other.
If we are in public, please present it inside an unsealed envelope/card or book. I will excuse myself to the bathroom to confirm it, and then we can enjoy our time together!
I only accept the balance in cash. Digital payment is not accepted without explicit prior discussion & agreement. If you arrive and need to complete the balance digitally, you will be expected to pay the transaction fee for immediate withdrawal as well as an additional $200 fee.
If you anticipate in advance that you might want to extend, feel free to bring extra so that you’re prepared when the time comes.
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Gifts + tips are never required but always such a sweet gesture!
I especially appreciate gifts from my wishlist
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Always!
If you email me shortly before our date, I might not have time to answer in a time sensitive manner, so below are my favorite drinks, snacks and flowers:
Bodega drinks -
Seltzers + Fake Soda: Sanzo seltzer, Olipop, Poppi, Wildwonder, CulturePop, Moshi, Hal’s, Saratoga
Coffee shop order -
Unsweetened matcha (iced or hot) with almond milk, or iced Americano (black), or iced latte with almond milk
Bubble tea -
(Gong cha) Iced green hibiscus with boba, lite ice, 30% sugar
(iMilky) - Iced green strawberry or mango, lite ice, 0% sugar
Snacks -
OLIVES!! 🫒(kalamata & garlic stuffed olives are my favorite). Freshly cut fruit, Fresh veggie sushi, crunchy peanut butter clif bar
Flowers -
I love a bodega bouquet :) For ease of transportation, please also supply a large paper bag or bodega bag so I can more easily transport the flowers
My only flower exception is if I’m touring/traveling, since I won’t have time to enjoy the flowers! In that case, you are always welcome to send me flowers completely privately thru my wishlist
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This is so appreciated and hot! :) I love connecting with people who are thoughtful, warm, present, and respectful. Attention to detail is always hot to me, and I find it so attractive when someone really puts thought and intention into our interaction, even if it’s the most casual or relatively brief encounter. Ways to go above and beyond - Sending a wishlist gift in anticipation.
I love connecting with people who view intimacy as a space for presence + connection - not as a dissociated experience based on a checklist or an idea of what a great time is “supposed” to look like.
I am very experienced interacting with shy people and helping you get out of your head, so please don’t worry about needing to come in super extroverted if that’s not your personality! As long as you are respectful and communicate how you’re feeling, we will have a great time.
Ways to make a bad impression:
Boundary-pushing of any kind. That is the number one thing that will leave a bad impression with me, and will likely cut our session short
We’re both here to create an amazing experience together, and I love connecting with people who have a warm, enthusiastic, non-entitled view on connection. I will be completely present, engaged and enthusiastic to learn about you and treat you with respect, desire and care, and I love connecting with those who match my energy
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I’m so glad you asked! =)
Great hygiene allows us to have the most playful, decadent time together.
At the beginning of our together, I will have each of us shower separately, wash hands with soap, and use mouthwash before getting into any extensive fun together.
My expectation is that you use a washcloth with soap, and thoroughly clean your body including any crevices or hard to reach areas - you know what I’m saying? Standing in the shower and letting water rain down on you is fun and can be a hot collaborative activity later on, but it is not what I mean by a shower 😘
If I am hosting, I will have gotten out of the shower just before you arrive.
If you are hosting, you are welcome to shower right before I arrive, but please be aware that if we are meeting in public for an extended meal, treat, activity etc. before spending time together privately, we will both shower again separately upon returning to the room.
Please also be mindful and attentive to your hygiene in the days leading up to the booking so we can have the best time together <3
Grooming - If you’re concerned about knicks, I recommend trimming rather than shaving in any sensitive areas in the week/days leading up, as any cuts/open wounds in sensitive areas (mouth included) will inhibit the ways we can connect.
Keeping your nails short, clean and filed (no sharp edges) is always a smart idea <3
If you have a tendency to get chapped lips or super dry skin - I recommend hydrating! Put oil/lotion on your body after getting out of the shower, and invest in a lip balm that you can wear overnight. And drink water!!
I strongly recommend reading and absorbing this very helpful guide:
https://www.thedannygoldexperience.com/post/grooming-for-a-date-with-a-sw
My personal recommendation for body moisturizer + lip balm (not sponsored 😂🖤) ~
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First and foremost, remember that this is a space for us to create an escape together and have fun! Show up with respect and humility, enthusiasm and a collaborative attitude about connecting, and we will get along wonderfully.
My recommendation is to take a couple minutes in the days leading up to think about your wishes/hopes/fears about connecting. Maybe even write them down! And feel free to communicate that at the beginning of our time together :) I love connecting with people who are really thoughtful + intentional.
If you find yourself stressing in the moments leading up - It’s completely normal to feel a little nervous! You are always welcome and encouraged to share that with me at the start of the booking - sometimes just acknowledging it helps relieve some of the stress :)
I’m super warm, affectionate, and empathetic, and will be excited to get to know you more. My expectation is that you arrive at our time together with the same positive and intentional attitude, and that you show up ready to create a unique connection together based on us both being present in the moment, rather than imposing an idea on me without consulting me (because that would be weird!!)
A note on expectations & consent:
It is common in the world of companionship to develop a bit of a crush and fantasy about a companion before we meet. This is super normal and okay! Remember to be mindful that the fantasy in your mind is still a fantasy, and even though you’ve maybe imagined us having specific experiences together, I am of course a real person (thank god!!) who you will have to check in with in the room about my likes/dislikes and boundaries (and I will of course do the same with you 🖤)
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Allergies + Sensory Needs:
Please let me know in advance if you have any allergies or sensitivities to fragrances, if you’d prefer a perfume-free encounter or anything else I should be aware of.
My goal is for us to have the best time possible together, and I’m more than happy to make adjustments to accommodate sensory needs.
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I am warm, non-judgmental, compassionate, playful and here to create the best experience for us to have an adventure together.
I don’t discriminate based on body type, gender identity, race/ethnicity, nationality, disability or for any other reason. I find that each person has unique hot qualities, and I’m excited to get to know yours :)
Be respectful, hygienic, kind, and 21+, and we will get along beautifully!
**P.S. - When we’re together in person, I am more than happy to call you by a name of your choosing (if you’d prefer not to be referred to by the name on your ID) - just let me know in your booking email/form.
2. The day of
3. During
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If my schedule allows it, I’m happy to extend =) My extension rate is 700/hour. As we get to the end of our scheduled time together, just ask if I have space to extend - If I do, we’ll handle the extension rate logistics and then get back to enjoying each others’ company <3
If we have been inside together for many hours already and you want to extend, we will likely need to order food to the room or switch up our activities. If you’re mindful & realistic about our time together within extensions, and I have the space to extend, I’d be happy to!
Additional nighttime rates may apply for extensions later in the evening
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I absolutely love visiting spaces with beautiful ambiance - huge aphrodisiac to me :) If you’d like to take a photo of our meal or the city view from our room or table, please let me know so I can get out of the way of your camera.
Similarly I will never photograph you during our time together unless you explicitly request me to do so. I take this super seriously and am happy to answer any questions/concerns you have about this in person!
If you have any additional discretion requests or concerns regarding photos during our time together, please let me know in advance so I can accommodate 🖤
Aside from taking a photo of the view, calling a Lyft or putting a playlist on, you will find me as someone who prefers to be off my phone and instead be deeply engaged in our conversation + connection. One of my favorite things about the space of companionship is that it’s a rare space in our society where we can truly take a break from our phones and connect deeply together in person.
I completely understand if you need to be on call for work or other responsibilities - feel free to let me know about this in advance. I’m always happy to step into the next room while you take an important call or virtual work meeting.
Photos or filming/audio recording of me/my belongings without my explicit consent and knowledge is strictly prohibited, an extreme violation of my consent, and will be subjected to serious consequences.
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I don’t drink - and love connecting with sober clients! But I absolutely love a mocktail and am always happy to meet you for a drink beforehand.
I am fully straight-edge, but you’re absolutely welcome to enjoy a drink or two while we’re together.
I ask that you do not partake in anything prior to us meeting up (you’re totally welcome to start enjoying a drink at the bar a few minutes before I arrive, but beyond this please hold off) ~ This is because it’s important for me to get a feel for your baseline energy in case anything affects you in unexpected ways during our time together. I also just find that connecting in a more clear-headed state can deepen the authenticity of our connection.
If substances are interfering with your behavior to the point of incoherence or erratic behavior, the session will immediately end.
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This is so sweet and I find enthusiasm to be really hot.
However! :) I have a strict no-reviews policy 🖤
I find the culture of review sites to be antithetical to my approach to companionship, which is about connecting authentically and deeply as opposed to viewing intimacy as a checklist to complete or a competitive performance. I’m happy to expand further on this in person.
Likewise, I value your privacy and will never share your personal information. Our time together is a sacred escape, and it is my expectation that details of our time together, and any personal details learned during our time together, stays between us.
If I find that you have written about our time together publicly in any forum without my explicit consent, you will be contacted by my legal representation and blacklisted widely.
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Outside of urgent scheduling/booking considerations, email is my sole form of communication with clients
I am not reachable by text outside of our scheduled time together
If you’d like to reach out to me outside of a booking inquiry, you’re welcome to send a thank you note or a “this made me think of you!” email paired with a wishlist gift or tip 🖤
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Absolutely! I love receiving thank you notes and hearing about how our time together has impacted you
I will never share any identifying or highly specific personal anecdotes you share with me, but please let me know if you would like to keep your words completely between us. I understand and respect your privacy
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My email inbox is primarily devoted to processing screening and booking information
Thank you notes are always cherished & appreciated!
An occasional “this made me think of you!” email (separate from a booking inquiry) is always welcome when paired with a small tip or wishlist gift
If you’d like to open up a more regular digital back-and-forth outside of bookings, please let me know and I’m happy to discuss a bespoke digital arrangement
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You are welcome to follow me on Bluesky and subscribe to my newsletter! :)
Some thoughts on digital boundaries and parasocial relationships ~ Please don’t expect much digital interaction with me on social media - I primarily use my social media as an extension of my advertising and to give a better feel for my personality and interests. As such, I primarily reply to/engage with my colleagues but not with clients/aspiring clients.
Parasocial relationships ~ It’s totally understandable to feel a greater degree of intimacy with people we follow on social media (so nothing to be ashamed of if you notice that happens for you), but I just ask that you be mindful of that and aware that when we meet, you’ve typically had an opportunity to get to know much more about me than I’ve had the pleasure of getting to know (yet! 🙂) about you.
If you’d like to set up a more frequent back-and-forth or one-time texting session, I’m happy to arrange that :) Email me for bespoke offerings <3
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If we’ve seen each other in the past year, no need to fill out my booking form again - just send me an email with all the normal logistics you’d send to schedule any kind of appointment:
*Your full name
*The calendar date/s + times you are requesting
*Where (incall/outcall)
*If you are writing from a new email address, please send me your previous email + phone number again.
Approach the communication like you’d approach scheduling your next haircut - You might be really close with your barber, but you wouldn’t email your barber just saying “hey, let’s meet!” You’d let them know what dates you’d like to schedule for, your hours of availability, and where you’d like to meet.
That way, I can be sure to make room for you in my schedule 💘